You are not alone on the stepmom journey. In The Smart Stepmom, you'll find practical advice on how to survive and thrive in your new blended family. Learn how to be a positive influence on children who are torn between two moms. When you're feeling rejected, there are steps you can do to improve your self image. Stepfamily expert Ron Deal and experienced stepmom Laura Petherbridge discuss how to handle holidays, adult stepchildren, between-home communication, and lots more. Stop ostracizing yourself and learn from others who have gone before you. Paperback. A Focus on the Family Recommendation.